I took my 9-year-old son on a date several months ago. He is the middle child who, I feel, is often lost in the shuffle. My 6-year-old daughter demands constant attention. I love spending time with her. She always wants to play with Barbie Dolls. Of course, she is always the cool Barbie with the nicer house and clothes. I have to follow her lead. It’s like high school all over again. I am my 16-year-old son’s chauffeur. Quite frankly, I would like to keep it that way. I am a control freak. Unfortunately, much like the my hips, children grow whether you want them to or not. My son begins Driver’s Ed Class in two weeks. I am not ready for this. That leaves my 9-year-old. He is very independent. He and I don’t get to spend nearly enough time together. I am trying to change that. Over the weekend, we attended an event at his elementary school. For years, father/daughter dances were held at the school. It is a special night for dad’s to bond with their daughters. My son’s school came up with a great event for mothers and sons. The third annual “Sons and Mudders” was held over the weekend. It is an obstacle course with mud; A LOT OF MUD.
Basically, it is a watered down “Tough Mudder” race. This is the second year my son and I participated. For someone who vacuums daily and washes the countertops more times in a day than a Kardashian looks in the mirror – I was definitely out of my comfort zone. I embraced the experience. I don’t think my son stopped smiling the entire night.
He and my older son (the boy in white) seemed to really enjoy this moment:
I pulled the “I gave birth to you and this is how you repay me” card later that night. Actually, it was all in good fun. I enjoyed not having to bark orders to ‘pick up this’ or ‘clean up that.’ We just played and laughed.
These are memories that I will cherish forever. I hope my middle child remembers these moments, too. I didn’t cram my ass in Yoga pants and roll in the mud for my health. I did it because I love him. That statement will either save me money in therapy or be the reason he needs another session.